Hi friend, I know that you didn't sign up to cry today, but..it's... October 17, 1946 D’Arline, I adore you, sweetheart. I know how much you like to hear that, but I don’t only write it because you like it, I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you. It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you, almost two years, but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing. But now I...
15 days ago • 2 min read
Hi friend, Betrayal cuts the deepest when it comes from someone you trust. And what is worse than being betrayed by someone else? Being betrayed by yourself. That is what micro negotiations are. They feel small. They feel harmless. Hitting snooze.Skipping the walk.Ordering takeout instead of cooking.Leaving the to do list blank for tomorrow.Pretending good enough is good enough. But these are not neutral decisions. Every single time you are training yourself. You are teaching your brain that...
22 days ago • 3 min read
Episode 116: How to bet on yourself more Hi friend, Most people never actually bet on themselves. They settle. They listen to voices that are not even their own, and those voices end up running the show. So pause and ask yourself: who is placing these glass ceilings over you? Who told you that you have to think small, dream small, live small? And when did you start believing them? Because if you go back to when you were a kid, there was no ceiling. You dreamed wildly. You carried this...
29 days ago • 2 min read
Episode 115: How to boost your metabolism (tap the image to listen/watch) Hi friend, We all overthink. And usually when we do, it leans one way. We pedestalize the worst case. We think of every possible reason why it could fall apart, why it will not work for us, why we are not enough, why someone else is more advantaged or more deserving. That becomes the dominant voice in our mind. But what if you flipped it. What if you gave the same energy to overthinking all the reasons why it could...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Episode 114: The Best Diet for Weight Loss, Pre-Workout Meals, Protein Needs, and Carbs Explained Hi friend, I was doing a homework assignment the other day, and the discussion board question was about what’s the most important factor in changing a person’s health. One of my classmates brought up mental resilience because of her experience with bariatric surgery. I wanted to chime in, not because I’ve gone through bariatric surgery myself, but because I spent three years as an exercise...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Episode 113: How to build a 2-3x/week full body workout program (Tap the image to listen) Hi friend, There’s a voice in your head that tells you I can’t do this. That says I’m not this person. I don’t believe in myself. That voice gets louder the more you let it sit in the driver’s seat. The more weight you give it, the more it becomes the default program running in the background of your mind. But here’s the truth: not every thought you have is real. Not every thought is true. And you don’t...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Hi friend, There is a part of your brain most people have never even heard of, but it might be the most important piece when it comes to willpower, resilience, and actually doing the things you keep saying you want to do. It is called the anterior mid cingulate cortex, or the AMCC. I think it's so cool because it gives us a physical anchor for something most people only talk about in motivational clichés. It is basically the spot in your brain that lights up when you are in the middle of...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Made you look...now you have to tap this image and listen to the podcast. Hi friend, If someone asked me how to change, how to build a new habit, how to stop sabotaging themselves, how to reach a new level in life, my first answer would be simple. Burn it down. Burn it all down. Burn down everything you once believed about yourself. Burn down the ceilings you put above your own head. Burn down the stories you inherited. Burn down the frameworks, the labels, the old narratives that keep you...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Tap the image to check out the new podcast episode! Hi friend, If you have never sat down and chosen your values, chances are you are living by someone else’s. That means the way you make decisions, the boundaries you set or do not set, even the direction you are headed in life could all be based on a script you did not write. Maybe those values were handed to you by your parents. Maybe they came from your culture, your friend group, your workplace, your coach, your church, your old self. You...
2 months ago • 1 min read