Bet on yourself more


Hi friend,

Most people never actually bet on themselves. They settle. They listen to voices that are not even their own, and those voices end up running the show.

So pause and ask yourself: who is placing these glass ceilings over you? Who told you that you have to think small, dream small, live small? And when did you start believing them?

Because if you go back to when you were a kid, there was no ceiling. You dreamed wildly. You carried this childlike self-belief that you could become anything as long as you put your mind to it. You were ambitious. You were naive enough to take action, and then willing to iterate like a scientist until you figured it out.

Where did that child go? And more importantly, how do you bring them back?

Here is the truth: everything has a cost. Every single choice you make is a bill that comes due. The bill for taking the leap. The bill for not taking the leap. The bill for chasing the adventure. The bill for staying home.

Regret is unavoidable. The only question is, which regret do you want to pay? The regret of trying and failing, or the regret of never trying at all?

Think about it. At the end of your life, you are going to meet the version of yourself that you could have been. Do you want to be haunted by the person you never became? Or do you want to stand face to face with that version of you and know you showed up, you leaned in, you built a story worth telling?

Because your story is not written yet. It is not predetermined. You are the architect. You are the narrator. You get to declare how it unfolds.

So ask yourself: who is narrating your thoughts right now? Whose soundtrack is playing in your head? If it is disabling you instead of enabling you, then it is time to cut it out like a cancer. Betting on yourself is scary, but the alternative is worse.

And yes, it will cost you. It will cost you your old self. It will cost you the comfort you have clung to. But that is the price of transformation.

The people you admire, whether athletes, artists, operators, or entrepreneurs, did not succeed in the absence of fear. They succeeded in the presence of it. That is what courage is. That is bravery. That is leaning into the tension instead of stepping back.

And in that tension, you will find the mirror. You will see yourself. You will feel the pull to retreat. But if you lean in, if you choose to bet on yourself, that is where everything changes. That is where your story becomes epic.

The story you will be proud to have lived.

If you like'd this, you can do a deep dive into my previous articles here.

Until next time,

Much Love,

Calvin

P.S - Got news. Heading to Tampa, FL middle to end of January. Got an opportunity to help prepare 30 NFL prospects for the combines. Big boy moves. Unbelievability excited and scared at the same time. LFG!


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