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Hi friend,

We all overthink. And usually when we do, it leans one way. We pedestalize the worst case. We think of every possible reason why it could fall apart, why it will not work for us, why we are not enough, why someone else is more advantaged or more deserving. That becomes the dominant voice in our mind.

But what if you flipped it. What if you gave the same energy to overthinking all the reasons why it could actually work out. The same habit of thought, but inverted. If you are going to let your brain run in circles, why not let it run in the direction of possibility.

Here is the trick though. It does not cement overnight. This is not about manifesting in the sense of magically wishing something into existence. It is more like setting the groundwork. You need a vision first. Neuroscience has shown that visualization practice lights up real areas of the brain, the same ones used when you actually perform the skill. So when you visualize best case, you are not playing make believe, you are literally wiring your brain to recognize it as a possibility.

Think of it like compounding interest. At first the gains feel invisible, but they add up over time. And just like finance, the earlier you start the more powerful it becomes. Visualization and mental rehearsal are reps. They are sets. And the muscle you are training is the dominant viewpoint in your own mind.

At first it feels silly. It feels cringey. There is tension because your brain is so used to running on worst case programming. But that tension is the exact sign you are in the right place. That is the same discomfort you felt when you learned a new exercise or skill. You had to be awkward before you were smooth.

So humor yourself. Give it five minutes. Sit with the thought of everything working out. Let yourself overthink all the reasons why it can go right instead of wrong. Ask yourself what if this did work, what if the doors actually opened, what if you really became this person. Watch how that changes the way you feel in your body. Your beliefs influence your actions, and your actions influence your reality.

You already know how it feels to spiral in the negative. Nothing changes except your mood. So why not give yourself the experiment of spiraling in the other direction and see what shifts.

This is a practice, just like training. You put in the reps, you build the muscle, and over time it becomes your new default. The way you think today is shaping your future. Change the thought habit, and you change the trajectory.

If you like'd this, you can do a deep dive into my previous articles here.

Until next time,

Much Love,

Calvin

P.S - Remember this...stop judging yourself so harshly. One day, when you’re 80, you’ll look back on this moment and wish you could return to it and see yourself with kinder eyes than the ones you’re using right now.

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