Hi friend, Here's a thought I was chewing on this morning. Don’t box yourself in. The lines you think define you? They aren’t real. The limits you assume exist? Also not real. Not every thought is true. And the things people say, what they think, what they do—it has nothing to do with you. It’s just them, projecting their own reality. Their own experiences. So why let any of it seep into your mind in a way that holds you back? Your environment—the people around you, the conversations you’re in, the world you operate within—it matters more than you even realize. It can shape you in ways that are so subtle, so ingrained, that you don’t even see it happening. And yet… the truth is, you don’t have to let it matter. But that’s easier said than done. Because when you’re in it, when you’re having a low day, when you’re looking around at people who seem further ahead—richer, more accomplished, more traveled, more successful—it’s so easy to feel lesser. To feel like you “should” be further. Like you’re behind. You’re out here building. Still working. Still grinding. Trying to start that business. Create that content. Progress in your career. Advance in your education. Do something meaningful. And some days, it feels like no matter how much effort you put in, you’re just not there yet. That’s why the real challenge isn’t just doing the thing. The real challenge is the sustained, relentless belief in yourself. And that? That is a practice. That is reps. It’s learning to recognize the thoughts that weigh you down. It’s challenging them, questioning them, and choosing again. Over and over. And over time, with enough reps, your default settings begin to shift. Because failure? Because comparison? It’s not magic. It’s not something they were born with. It’s mindset. It’s frame. It’s practice. Every single person started at zero, and every single person will leave with zero. The only game you are playing is the one with yourself. So don’t let the world box you in. Don’t let the weight of what others think, what society says, or what your own doubts whisper keep you from being loud, crazy, obsessed, relentless, quirky, weird—whatever makes you feel alive. Because there is no line. The only line is the one you draw. And if you believe there’s a line holding you back, I’d ask—who put it there? Is it actually you? Or is it just someone else’s thoughts, replaying like a song on repeat in your mind? Because at the end of the day, you decide. You are both the sun and the kryptonite to yourself. So erase the line. Until next time, Much love, Calvin Share this article with your friends here. P.S - Call your mum or dad today. No reason—just because. What else am I working on? Follow me on social: |
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