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Hi friend,

If you have never sat down and chosen your values, chances are you are living by someone else’s.

That means the way you make decisions, the boundaries you set or do not set, even the direction you are headed in life could all be based on a script you did not write.

Maybe those values were handed to you by your parents. Maybe they came from your culture, your friend group, your workplace, your coach, your church, your old self. You never really questioned them. You just accepted them because that is how it has always been.

It is not always bad to inherit a value. But you have to ask yourself: is this the value I actually want? Is this the value I want to want?

Because if you are running on borrowed values, they might not hold when you're challenged. They might sound good, look good on paper, maybe even feel trendy, but if they are shallow, they will not anchor you. They will crack when the pressure comes.

Your values are your roots. The deeper they go, the stronger you stand. The more you water them, the more they can weather storms. But if they are weak, you are going to keep getting knocked over, starting over, feeling like you are tripping over your own feet every time you try to change.

This is why so many people get stuck. They try to build new habits or chase big goals, but it is all happening on unstable ground. If you do not know what you believe in, you will not know where to plant your feet, and you will not remember where your line in the sand is.

Your values act like your operating system. They decide what you accept, what you reject, what gets your time, and what does not. Without them, you drift. With them, you can filter every choice through something solid.

You do not get to keep the old you and have the new you. You cannot be greedy like that. If you want to change, it will costs you the old version of yourself.

So here is what I want you to do today. Sit down. Write out the three to five values you actually want to live by, not the ones you have been carrying because someone else said you should. Choose the ones that matter to you, that emotionally charge you, the ones you would defend even if it cost you something.

Because the moment you choose them, you start standing on ground that is yours. And that is when change starts to stick.

Until next time,

Much love,

Calvin

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